Gratitude is both vertical and horizontal.
We should thank God for his good gifts, and thank people too, for how they bless us.
It is fitting that a grateful Christian develops a habit of reaching out to thank other people. Perhaps in person, or by phone, through email or social media—we let them know that we are grateful for who they are and what they do.
First, we could show our gratitude to someone who probably does not expect it. Perhaps it is the checkout person in the grocery store who packs your groceries with care. Say thank you. Perhaps it is the stranger on the bus who gives up her seat for an elderly woman. Say thank you.
Second, we could thank the people who have often supported and helped us. Here Paul sets an example of gratitude. In Philippians 4:10-19, he thanks the Philippians for how they looked after his material needs. Or in 2 Timothy 1:16-17, he acknowledges how Onesiphorus searched for him in Rome to bring encouragement. He does not take for granted the kindnesses that he received from others.
This requires us to think back: who has influenced you, or who has cared for you?
Perhaps a high school teacher long ago who had a key role in shaping your career path. Perhaps a parent who was faithful in going to all your music recitals or sports games, and now you finally appreciate what a sacrifice that was. Perhaps a friend who stood by you in your darkest hour.
In a spirit of humility, it is good to reach out and say thanks.
Third, it is right that we thank the people in our life who continue to bless us: our friends, our spouse, our pastor, brothers and sisters in our biological family, our brothers and sisters in Christ.
It is true that relationships can be messy and difficult. Despite these struggles, we should realize how God is growing and blessing us through our interaction with others. This kind of gratitude is a good counterbalance to the envy or resentment that we sometimes harbor against other people.
What is more, it enhances our relationships when we take the time to reflect on their meaning, value, and health.
For instance, a husband should take a moment or two to consider how his wife is a blessing to him through her wisdom, her reliability, her unflagging support. Hopefully he will then be moved to thank the Lord—and to value his wife.
Or a church member should reflect on the tangible blessings of belonging to the body of Christ in a particular place. He might be less inclined then to complain or criticize his fellow members, but instead to thank Christ for being included among them.
The examples can be multiplied: whenever we treasure the gift of an earthly relationship and we thank God for it, we should consider how we can give back.
For whom in your life do you thank God?
Have you thanked God for them?
And have you told them that you are thankful?
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